Taking a Step Back

At the end of this month, I'm moving home to live with my Mom.  My boyfriend is coming with me and the crazy thing is that this was all his idea!  It's funny how you think moving out and being on your own is going to make you a grown up and in the end it's almost more grown up to move back and save money.

Ugh

We realized that living in Boston is no way to save for a house and I really don't want to put any more of my hard earned dough in someone else's pocket so back to Mom's it is.  It would be an adjustment if it was just me but it's even MORE of an adjustment adding a third person.  It's going to take a little while to figure out who's stuff goes where and how everyone is going to get their own space and I'll do some more updates on how that's going.

Now I'll finally have enough space and light to start a container garden :)

To be honest, I think it's going to be fun.  My mom and boyfriend love each other and the especially love partnering up and torturing me and it will be great for my dog because she'll finally have a yard to run around in.  In the long run it is most definitely the best idea because we will hopefully be able to buy our own place and start on my multifamily real estate empire within a year or so!

Sometimes you need to take a step back to take a step forward.  Fingers crossed!

PS Yesterday was my little munchkin's 5th birthday so I have to include some pictures of her :)

(Re)connecting With Friends

As I sit here making the hotel reservation for a good friend's wedding, I'm reminded of how lucky I am to have such a great group of people around me.  Friends are so important and so many of us take having them for granted.  I'm sure you've all gotten the following advice in some form:

Don't neglect your friends when you're in a relationship.  

It seems easy enough, right?  It's hard!  It's especially hard if your significant other doesn't live near you or isn't really part of your already existing friend group.

Newsies - Best Show Ever

You're probably saying that you would never do that.  Trust me, I said the same thing and it still happened.  I started dating someone right after college and it was sort of long distance for over two years.  I felt so secure in my relationships with my friends because we had just spent all of college together.  But time moves fast, and before you know it, you've neglected to keep up those relationships and it's hard to get back to where you were.  Friendships take work and give and take and I definitely have learned it the hard way.

 

It's important to do activities with your friends.  Like building gingerbread houses with glue guns

It's taken me a while (years! so don't make the same mistake) but I feel like I'm finally getting back to where I was when I graduated from college.  I'm also fortunate enough to have a wonderful boyfriend who fits right in with all of them.  They may actually like him more than they like me!

With the summer coming up, and your schedule filling up quick, make sure to put aside some time for your good friends!  You're never going to regret it.

 

An oldie but a goodie - Sunrise on graduation day

Obscure Holiday Friday - Roast Leg of Lamb Day?

So for my second installment of Obscure Holiday Friday, we celebrate.. well.. apparently it's Roast Leg of Lamb Day. Truly an obscure holiday.  So in that spirit, here is one of the highest rated recipes I could find.
http://allrecipes.com/recipe/roast-leg-of-lamb-with-rosemary/

Because this is no cooking blog, I can't really do a whole post on lamb so I'll go into what it reminds me of instead.  When I was 16 I went on a trip to Ireland with my Mom and Dad because that is where my father came from.  We spent a full two weeks driving around the country seeing all the sights and visiting relatives I had never met.  (we even met a few of my Aunt's pets)  The very first place I ever had lamb was at my Aunt's house in County Clare and it. was. AMAZING.  I would go back there at a moment's notice if I had the chance.  Maybe someday I will.

 

It truly was a wonderful trip and I feel like I got to know my father so much better after seeing where he had come from.  He passed away a little over a year later so those really are some of my favorite memories.  He was quite a unique man and maybe one day I'll write about him a little more.  In the meantime, here is some flashback Friday for you.

 

And not to be forgotten, to the moms!  Here is my Mom (and bestie) saying Happy Mother's Day to all.  (yes I know I already used this photo but I love it so much and it drives her so crazy that I had to use it again) Have a fantastic weekend!

Learning to Count to 5 and Other Lessons

There are a lot of important lessons that you learn as you grow up.  You're taught to save money and be respectful and be kind and that's really just the tip of the iceberg.  For me, the hardest lessons have been learned over the past 15 months.

I've always been outspoken and have always been firm in what I believe to be right and wrong.  But I've never realized just how stubborn and stuck in my ways I already am at 28.  Living with someone will definitely show you those parts of yourself that you weren't totally aware of.  Living with your boyfriend in a 415 square foot STUDIO apartment will show you those parts of yourself in a matter of days.

Let me just start by saying that I love my boyfriend very much and we're so similar that sometimes it's scary.  However, spending 15 months together in a tiny space has a way of highlighting the differences in how we approach different situations and how much work a relationship can really be.  Adjusting to accommodating someone else is never easy and here are some of the lessons I've learned (and am still trying to perfect).

Who could stay mad at this face :)

1) Count to five before you speak.  The wrong remark or the right remark with the wrong attitude can spark an argument or be conveyed in a less than desirable way.

2) Learn to pick you battles strategically.  Just because you've always done some trivial thing - like loading the dishwasher - a certain way doesn't mean you need to tell/harp on/nag your significant other or roommate to follow your lead.  You can adjust to a new way of doing things.  Sometimes the adjustment is long and painful but it's the best thing in the long run.

3) You do not always need to be right.  Correcting what someone says or does and getting the last word should not be the most important thing.  The most important thing is getting along and being happy and living a stress free life.  There is no need to add stress if you don't have to.

4) Keep open lines of communication.  This home belongs to both of you and both of you need to feel comfortable in it all the time.  If you keep your emotions and feeling inside then you will eventually resent the other and at that point it's much harder to come back from it.  NOTE: When keeping an open line of communication, please refer to lessons number 1, 2, and 3 :)

Travel Bucket List

I've always had a desire to travel but I was never one of those die hard travelers.  My boyfriend and I watched the Secret Life of Walter Mitty on Sunday and it's got me all fired up and wanting to go everywhere I possibly can.  Has anyone seen that?  The cinematography and music combo is enough to make you want to quit your job and hop on a plane to Iceland immediately.

My 3 trips out of the country were to Belize for vacation, Bahamas for vacation, and Ireland to visit family. While I love the beachy vacations, I'm a huge fan of vacations with lots of sightseeing and activities. I'd say my top 10 (in no particular order) places I want to go are:

Switzerland

Iceland

Belgium

Australia

New Zealand

England

South Africa

Italy

The Grand Canyon

Alaska

Because I haven't been to any of those places yet, I have no pictures!  So here are some pictures from our trip to Belize last year.

We went during the rainy season and these storms would just pop out of nowhere and then be gone within 10 minutes.  Belize has the second largest barrier reef in the world and you can see the waves breaking on it in the distance.

Happy to be out of the office!

The roads aren't great so people bike everywhere.

Obviously I had to get a shot with my feet in it, right?

(Correction.  Those are my boyfriend's feet!  We had a good laugh about that one)

Sunset on the plane ride home :(  Until next time!

She's Baaaack!

So I took quite a long hiatus(and I had only just started!).  Sorry about that.  I feel like I really want to dedicate a significant amount of myself to this and so I took some time off to think and to gather myself.  This is really a learn as you go sort of thing and I'm excited to keep going.

The month or so since I last posted didn't feel very exciting and so I didn't feel like I had anything interesting to post about.  But the more I look around and the more I take time to just slow down and think, the more I realize that there is always something exciting and something challenging going on.  So much always seems to be changing and I'm going to try to slow down more often and appreciate that life itself is exciting and an adventure.

Take right now for example.  I'm expecting two fairly major changes to happen in the next month or so and both of them will require a significant adjustment.  But in the meantime, there are so many fun things along the way.  Last night I celebrated the engagement of two great friends.  I'm going to start riding horses again. (Yay!) This weekend will include some quality family time. The weather is finally getting warm enough to spend a good amount of time outside and I'm just generally happy, healthy, have great people around me, and I don't have much to complain about.

 I promise I won't leave for this long again!  This weekend I'm going to be taking a blogging e-course and will be back Monday with great ideas and posts for days :)

Just for fun, here are two of the most delicious things I can think of.  

Salted caramels and roast beef on a toasted onion roll. mmmm

Happy Friday!